Happiness is one aspiration all people share

No one wants to be sad and depressed.

1. Appreciate Life
Be thankful that you woke up alive each morning. Develop a childlike sense of wonder towards life. Focus on the beauty of every living thing. Make the most of each day. Don’t take anything for granted. Don’t sweat the small stuff.

2. Choose Friends Wisely
Surround yourself with happy, positive people who share your values and goals. Friends that have the same ethics as you will encourage you to achieve your dreams. They help you to feel good about yourself. They are there to lend a helping hand when needed.

3. Be Considerate
Accept others for who they are as well as where they are in life. Respect them for who they are. Touch them with a kind and generous spirit. Help when you are able, without trying to change the other person. Try to brighten the day of everyone you come into contact with.

4. Learn Continuously
Keep up to date with the latest news regarding your career and hobbies. Try new and daring things that has sparked your interest – such as dancing, skiing, surfing or sky-diving.

5. Creative Problem Solving
Don’t wallow in self-pity. As soon as you face a challenge get busy finding a solution. Don’t let the set backs affect your mood, instead see each new obstacle you face as an opportunity to make a positive change. Learn to trust your gut instincts – it’s almost always right.

6. Do What You Love
Some statistics show that 80% of people dislike their jobs! No wonder there’s so many unhappy people running around. We spend a great deal of our life working. Choose a career that you enjoy – the extra money of a job you detest isn’t worth it. Make time to enjoy your hobbies and pursue special interests.

7. Enjoy Life
Take the time to see the beauty around you. There’s more to life than work. Take time to smell the roses, watch a sunset or sunrise with a loved one, take a walk along the seashore, hike in the woods etc. Learn to live in the present moment and cherish it. Don’t live in the past or the future.

8. Laugh
Don’t take yourself – or life to seriously. You can find humor in just about any situation. Laugh at yourself – no one’s perfect. When appropriate laugh and make light of the circumstances. (Naturally there are times that you should be serious as it would be improper to laugh.)

9. Forgive
Holding a grudge will hurt no one but you. Forgive others for your own peace of mind. When you make a mistake – own up to it – learn from it – and FORGIVE yourself.

10. Gratitude
Develop an attitude of gratitude. Count your blessings; All of them – even the things that seem trivial. Be grateful for your home, your work and most importantly your family and friends. Take the time to tell them that you are happy they are in your life.

11. Invest in Relationships
Always make sure your loved ones know you love them even in times of conflict. Nurture and grow your relationships with your family and friends by making the time to spend with them. Don’t break your promises to them. Be supportive.

12. Keep Your Word
Honesty is the best policy. Every action and decision you make should be based on honesty. Be honest with yourself and with your loved ones.

13. Meditate
Meditation gives your very active brain a rest. When it’s rested you will have more energy and function at a higher level. Types of meditation include yoga, hypnosis, relaxation tapes, affirmations, visualization or just sitting in complete silence. Find something you enjoy and make the time to practice daily.

14. Mind Your Own Business
Concentrate on creating your life the way you want it. Take care of you and your family. Don’t get overly concerned with what other people are doing or saying. Don’t get caught up with gossip or name calling. Don’t judge. Everyone has a right to live their own life the way they want to – including you.

15. Optimism
See the glass as half full. Find the positive side of any given situation. It’s there – even though it may be hard to find. Know that everything happens for a reason, even though you may never know what the reason is. Steer clear of negative thoughts. If a negative thought creeps in – replace it with a positive thought.

16. Love Unconditionally
Accept others for who they are. You don’t put limitations on your love. Even though you may not always like the actions of your loved ones – you continue to love them.

17. Persistence
Never give up. Face each new challenge with the attitude that it will bring you one step closer to your goal. You will never fail, as long as you never give up. Focus on what you want, learn the required skills, make a plan to succeed and take action. We are always happiest while pursuing something of value to us.

18. Be Proactive
Accept what can not be changed. Happy people don’t waste energy on circumstances beyond their control. Accept your limitations as a human being. Determine how you can take control by creating the outcome you desire – rather than waiting to respond.

19. Self Care
Take care of your mind, body and health. Get regular medical check ups. Eat healthy and work out. Get plenty of rest. Drink lots of water. Exercise your mind by continually energizing it with interesting and exciting challenges.

20. Self Confidence
Don’t try to be someone that you’re not. After all no one likes a phony. Determine who you are in the inside – your own personal likes and dislikes. Be confident in who you are. Do the best you can and don’t second guess yourself.

21. Take Responsibility
Happy people know and understand that they are 100% responsible for their life. They take responsibility for their moods, attitude, thoughts, feelings, actions and words. They are the first to admit when they’ve made a mistake.

Begin today by taking responsibility for your happiness. Work on developing these habits as you own. The more you incorporate the above habits into your daily lifestyle – the happier you will be.

Ultimate happiness is tricky

Ultimate happiness is a tricky mistress, always hanging just around the corner with promising smiles

Happiness exists in your mind rather than in materialistic possession.
Happiness does not come from a state, but from a change of state.
Happiness does not come from the prize, but in the process of attaining that prize. It’s a journey, not a destination.Our boredom is our ecstasy.If you can appreciate each passing moment as a blissful step towards your next plateau, lasting happiness is yours.
The secret lies in being able to remain content with each passing moment while keeping our eyes on the next.
If you can live comfortably within this, you live in heaven on Earth.

Oh it’s delicious, this thing called life. It’s a delicious experience, no? Are you not allowed to experience everything? The tears, the joy, the pain,the gladness, the exaltation, the massive depression, the win, the loss the draw? What more is there?

1) VisualizeSee yourself getting being successful with that company or getting that girl. Feel the pure bliss that you would experience as if it were actually happening. The more you do this, the more vivid and real-feeling your sessions will get. By visualizing your desires, you are communicating them directly to your subconscious.You’ll feel as if you’re living the dream.

2) Watch Tyler Durden’s Speech From Fight Club(Highly recommended)-
Brad Pitt’s character in Fight Club has some very truthful and eye-opening things to say about society. This might not be the perfect cure for your particular sentiment, but it will certainly jumpstart a lot of people out of their slump. Best line: “You are not your f&*king khakis.”

3) Try to live in the present.
Complication in life often arises because we are worrying and planning about the future. We can become so concerned about what may happen tomorrow or next year that we forget to enjoy the present moment or rather we carry too much burden & melancholic memories from the past slowing decaying our soul. To have one’s focus on the present and now, is to encompass life as it is supposed to be.

4) Less Planning and Thinking
When we complicate life through our endless planning we bring tomorrow’s problems into today. Yet it is always worth remembering that our worries and fears about the future often prove to be futile.

5) Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities!- Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.Believe in yourself through tough times. Believe in your capacity to succeed. Believe that your relationships are worth the effort. Believe in your intuition, especially when you have to choose between two good paths. Believe that it’s all worth your while and after all we have a great thing within us- HOPE and as said by Mr. Dufrensey- ”Hope is a good thing infact best of the things and no good thing ever dies ”

And remember little things do bring great differences to our lives. here is one of my answer comprising of those little things that can make you feel alive.

1) Stick your body out of a sunroof while the car is driving- Ever wondered why a dog sticks his head out of a car window, only a biker knows that. This one is a lot of fun. If you don’t have a sunroof, a window works just as well. High speed makes the experience much more invigorating.Remember Emma Watson from the ”The Perks of Being a Wallflower”

2) Blast your favorite badass songMy favorite are ”Paradise by Coldplay” and ”Good Life by One Republic”.If the coffee mug on your table isn’t shaking then you’re not blasting it enough.

3) Do something outside of your comfort zone– Amazing things happens once you’re out of your comfort zone. Surely you can find something in this, keep your imagination going.

4) Destroy something– Take out some frustrations on an inanimate object but not a costly one though.

5) Realize that you are ALIVE!– You have years and years of potential ahead of you. If you feel dead today, consider what stupendous things you could be doing tomorrow.

6) Go experience nature– Being outside just feels amazing, visit the most surreal & exotic places, meet people, hear them, learn their traditions, experience the varying cultures. Given a choice I would like to visit all the vineyards in the world and taste all the astonishing wines.

7) Watch the Sunset– The moment when sun starts receding but the darkness hasn’t taken over yet, believe me at that moment all the magic happens and you can’t deny that. So much refreshing.

8) Scare yourself– Have a feel of adrenaline. Acrophobia, go on the hilltop and check out whether it still freaks you out.

9) Exercise and Meditate
10) Scream at the top of your lungs- Remember Jack Dawson from Titanic screaming from the ship’s railing, so scream out right now, right there and yes you’re the king of the world.

11) Get to know a stranger- Truly connect with another human being. Skip the small talk and ask about their goals and ambitions.Sometimes you could be amazed by their passions, dreams and passion is infectious.

12) Run around in the rain- ‘Singing in the Rain” or ”The Sound of Music”
Some people enjoy rain others just get Wet- Bob Marley

Everyday I wake up

Happiness isn’t a goal that we accomplish or a means to an end.  Being happy is a by-product from what we decide to do with our lives.

Everyday I wake up and tell myself that the most amazing thing just happened to me.  I woke up.  I get to exist at least one more day in this world.  There is no greater thing in the world than being alive; money, love, happiness, it’s all nothing without the mere fact of existence.

That pushes me to do more with my life.  If I am blessed with the gift of being alive, I am going to do everything in my power to live a life with the absolute most passion I can possibly give.

That means you have to take risks.  Love somebody knowing they may never love you back.  Love yourself.  Because if you don’t then no one else is going to give you the time of day.

Strive to do something meaningful with your life.  Not meaningful in the eyes of society.  Getting a degree, a house and a family, that’s selling out, I don’t care about that shit.  Do what is meaningful to you.  Do something that you will look back on years from now and you’ll say to yourself, ‘yeah, I did it.”

Do that, and someway along the ride you’ll forget about being happy.  You’ll just be.

The happiest man alive?

The happiest person I’ve ever met in my life wasn’t a millionaire, a billionaire or someone that won the lottery.

It was a guy that works at the cashier at my local supermarket.

He seems to be the happiest, friendliest and most fulfilled person on this planet.

I never saw someone being so passionate about doing his job. He talks to everyone, asks how their day was and usually lightens up my and everybody else’s day. It’s a gift.

Sometimes I even go and buy my stuff there just to see his friendliness at work. It fascinates me every time.

But it also makes me wonder what his recipe might be, his recipe for happiness. And why so many people are chasing what he seems to have found.

Most importantly, he probably found it without ever having searched for it. Maybe one magic morning it just happened to be there. And I guess that might be his secret sauce.

The secret sauce that might help all of us to be happier and enjoy our lives even more (in case there is such thing as happiness).

As soon as we start questioning what we are currently doing, see hundreds of other shiny opportunities, start comparing ourselves to others and let ourselves blind by the awesome lives that others seem to be living on the outside we start questioning our own path.

We get the feeling that something might be missing in our lives. A feeling that could best be described with unhappiness. So we start the pursuit of happiness. A never ending pursuit…

This is something completely natural and human. So the question should be more about how we can stop questioning our own path and start living a happy life instead.

To answer this question let’s take a look at this beautiful short story, which is a true story by the way (originally appeared in form of a poem in The New Yorker, May 16th, 2005):

An author was at a party on Shelter Island given by a billionaire. A friend came over to him and asked him how he felt that the guy throwing this party makes more money a day than he will ever be able to make with all of his books combined. And the author said, “Fair enough. But I’ve got something he can never have”. “Now what could that be?”, his friend was wondering. And the author replied, “Enough”.

Not having enough is the beginning of the vicious circle and the reason why we start comparing ourselves with others, start questioning our own path and feel like something is missing (although we might already have everything).

As soon as we start realizing the power of having enough we might get a step closer to finding the key to happiness.

The key that the guy working at the cashier at my local supermarket has found already. The key we are all trying to find.

He has enough…

How can I be happy?

‘s how:

  1. Stop comparing yourself to other people.  I work in psychiatry and can tell you first-hand that so many seemingly happy and successful people are burning themselves alive on the fire of their inner turmoil.  Focus on you.
  2. Socialize.  Even if you are an introvert, force yourself into social scenarios that give you the opportunity to meet people and form connections.  These connections will put you back in touch with your humanity.
  3. Make healthy decisions. It is amazing how much exercise and good diet can change your outlook on the world around you.  The negative thoughts in your head that seem so very real and pressing will melt away.
  4. Do something different. Stop wasting your time trying to find the “perfect hobby.”  Pick anything – whether it’s fiber art or coffee tasting.  Find something that you can put effort into, build competence, and see results.
  5. Get in touch with your anchors.  We tend to lose these anchors as we get older.  Try to better position yourself within any communities you once found a home in, whether that’s your family, your neighborhood, your culture, or your religion.
  6. Look less ahead. Look less behind. Try to refocus yourself to the current moment more often. Start building memories instead of living in them.  Start creating your future instead of just hoping for a better one.  If you don’t do this, your life will become a fog that can stretch across your entire time on earth.
  7. Create.  Write in a journal.  Paint something.  Make up a song even if you will never perform it.  Start to fashion the relics that you will leave behind when you are gone.
  8. Let go.  Forgive those who hurt you.  I’m sorry you were hurt.  But if you do not leave that hurt in the past, it will follow you like a wolf – forever casting a dangerous shadow over everything you do.
  9. Worry more about the others.  Many times it is our own narcissism that destroys us. It seems counter-intuitive, but take some time each day to think about the needs of the other people in your life.  Helping them meet those needs will make you happier in a way that you might not understand right now.
  10. Stop running.  There is no such place as “away.” Travel as far as you want, but you will still find yourself waiting for you when you get there. Pull out your sword. It’s time to turn around and fight the dragons inside you.

Matthew Manning